Not too long ago it seems, i worked for a young family of a 9 month old little girl who was sweet as pie. I fell instantly for her and couldn’t wait to nurture her, teach her and watch her grow…unfortunately her parents were immediately strange about the whole arrangement but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it.
I thought things were odd immediately when I was asked to use the back door only on my very first day. I assumed it was because the front door was broken or stuck….but no….everyone else I would come to realize used the front door, and I was to use the back door.
I came and went and did my job with nary a complaint even though it was awkward….mom and dad were always both home even though they were supposed to be working partly from home and partly from their work places. I never showed any sign of any feeling except utter joy to spend time with this little angel, even though it made it very hard for me to do my job as they kept grabbing her from me, and discouraging us from bonding.
Everyday they meddled more, and even though I followed their ‘written’ schedule/rules for their daughter to a ‘T’ they constantly suggested to me that I wasn’t doing it right…I started to feel very frustrated but kept on.
This went on for months….
Then one day, it was a Monday, I had come into work with a couple of cloth books that I had spotted on the weekend on sale…I immediately let baby play with them and she loved them…we had our usual day…filled with lots of giggles and love.
At 5:30 promptly, Dad came down to relieve me which wasn’t uncommon if Mom was busy, except this time I caught a quick glance of an envelope he had in his hand, labeled ‘goodbye’ which he handed to me with a smile and wished me a good night…
Put on my coat and boots, scarf, hat and gloves, wished them a great evening and off I went with a sour taste in my mouth and a sudden uncomfortable feeling in my stomach. I got just far away enough from the house and couldn’t wait any longer to see what was in the envelope. Took off my gloves and ripped open the envelope.
“(my name) it has been lovely meeting you and our daughter has grown very attached to you, you seem to have a very special gift. However at this time I feel very jealous of your relationship with my daughter and feel as though you bought her new toys to hint at us that we are incompetent parents.”
Find enclosed two weeks pay,
we wish you well,
I cried all the way home my tears freezing to my face…
I had never experienced anything like this in all my 20+ years of working with children and their families, I was shocked! and yet had known all along that something was off…it was the little things….
In time I came to realize….they just weren’t ready.
Have you had any similar incidences you’d like to share?